From March, 2006 (Sam was 14 – at 19, she now makes much better musical decisions!) :
Sam loves music. If she could, her headphones would be surgically implanted for her constant listening pleasure.
Unfortunately some of the music Sam enjoys falls way short of my this-is-so-not-good-for-you parental antennae. We’ll be in the car, flipping through stations and a popular song will come on. Sam will sing away as someone discusses someone else’s tuckus and his or her appreciation thereof. I’ll quickly turn the station to something I used to consider harmless, like country, only to discover lyrics about a naughty country boy checking his country girl for ticks. And it seems no matter where I turn, Sam knows the words.
She’s hearing it somewhere.
So I worry. And I find myself wanting to protect Sam from all the stuff that’s out there. When I really think about it (TV, music, movies, Internet), I’m tempted to lock her in her room, tutor her myself and only let her listen to K-Love and the Sound of Music soundtrack over and over and over (Although that Julie Andrews was a bit of a wild woman herself).
But then Sam went on a mission trip over Spring Break. She went to Gulfport, Mississippi and helped out some folks who didn’t have anything. She actually tore down a home . . . and loved every minute of it. She came back in tears, saying she hadn’t wanted to leave. Her heart was tender towards those she served and her heart was tender towards God. She lay in her bed that evening and asked God to help her stand firm spiritually. She wanted to be a light for him.
It brought tears to my eyes when she told me about it.
The next day, she didn’t even ask to flip through other stations when Brian drove her to school. She wanted to do life differently.
Of course, by the end of the week, I caught her singing about those darn ticks again . . . but those few days taught me something.
We can have rules and guidelines and boundaries in our home (and we do), but the thing that changes Sam’s heart, the thing that changes mine . . . is encountering God in real life situations. It’s all about falling in love with him and wanting to do life differently because of the love we’ve experienced. If life is all about the things we can’t do, it’s overwhelming. Because there’s SO MUCH we should avoid. But if life is about our time with
God – and the adventure, joy, life and hope we find as we love him and reach out to others… well, then, those silly songs, lousy movies and tempting distractions will lose their appeal.
Because He is so much more beautiful.
AMEN!!! Thank you. How did you know I needed to read this today? My ever tick music surfer is gone again on another canyoneering trip and I know it is the encounters out there in God’s open country that are changing him for HIS GLORY. Letting go and letting God is hard for mom’s sometimes. Thanks again for encouraging us on the journey.
I feel the same way about my daugter and her music. Some tunes are so out there that she knows when to turn the station. I know Regina (17) loves God, and life gets thrown at her, but she is so humble, accepting, caring and truth be told, she models more of a Christian woman than me at times. Gotta love our kids.
Oh when that day comes for me…may I parent with the love and grace that you express!!